Crayons to Chromosomes: Navigating Toddlers and Cell Lines

“नास्ति मातृसमा छाया, नास्ति मातृसमा गति:।”
(Nāsti mātru-samā chāyā, nāsti mātru-samā gatiḥ)

There is no shade like a mother, no refuge like a mother.

In today’s interconnected world, many Indian women are gracefully navigating the complex and rewarding balance of motherhood and professional ambition, especially while living abroad. For those engaged in research in foreign countries, this dual role evolves into more than just a personal journey; it is a daily exercise in resilience, cultural adaptation and inner strength.

Postdoctoral research is often seen as the most demanding phase of an academic career, requiring relentless focus, long hours and sustained mental effort. When paired with motherhood, it brings to light the extraordinary ability of women to adapt, multitask and flourish even in the most high-pressure environments. Each day unfolds as a thoughtful balance of lab notes and lunchboxes, data analysis and bedtime stories.

In Indian culture, motherhood is deeply revered yet often burdened with expectations of constant self-sacrifice and unwavering availability. Many grandparents visit for a few months when they can, offering help with the children or simply providing emotional support. Their presence brings comfort, warmth and a cherished sense of home to a place far from familiar. 

Even without constant support, the systems abroad differ greatly from those in India, where extended families often step in to help. In the absence of that familiar network, they uncover resilience and a newfound adaptability within.

There are, of course, challenging moments: sleepless nights, missed deadlines and the lingering guilt of not giving enough attention either to work or your children. Yet amid it all, the joy of watching your children discover something new in a foreign land or reaching a milestone in your research makes it all worthwhile.

The support of a partner can make an immeasurable difference. In many homes, these partners do not merely “help”—they share every step, every responsibility and every late-night worry. Whether it’s managing toddler meltdowns, preparing meals, lending a hand with scientific planning or lab deadlines, or keeping track of paediatric appointments between experiments and meetings, their steady presence turns a demanding life into a shared journey. Growing together, they become equal co-travelers in both parenting and science—making the impossible feel possible.

Institutions are increasingly recognising the unique needs of academic parents, offering flexible working hours, peer support and fostering a culture that values work-life balance. These positive changes offer hope that future generations may find the path a little smoother.

Motherhood enhances a woman’s capacity to lead with empathy, think creatively and solve problems with resilience. For Indian women living abroad, motherhood and scientific pursuit aren’t separate spheres, they are deeply intertwined, forming a unique and meaningful journey. Though the road is often demanding, it is also filled with grace. Each day, lived with sincerity, love and perseverance, becomes a quiet yet powerful victory.

And for those raising twins (like me), the joys, like the challenges are undoubtedly doubled, bringing twice the laughter, love and unforgettable moments.